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《Better Than Before》chapter review 4-1: Abstaining ( Free From French Fries )

書名《Better Than Before》 ---mastering the habits of our everyday lives 

作者 GRETCHEN RUBIN   

chapter review

1. SELF-KNOWLEDGE
   1. The Four Tendencies(The fateful tendencies we bring into the world)
   2. Different Solutions For Different People: Distinctions
2. PILLARS OF HABITS
   1. We Manage What We Monitor: Monitoring
   2. First Things First: Foundation
   3. If It's On The Calendar, It Happens: Scheduling
   4. Someone's Watching: Accountability
3. THE BEST TIME TO BEGIN
   1. It's Enough To Begin: First Steps
   2. Temporary Becomes Permanent: Clean Slate
   3. Data Point Of One: Lightning Bolt
4. DESIRE, EASE, AND EXCUSES
   1. Free From French Fries: Abstaining
   2. It's Hard To Make Things Easier: Convenience
   3. Change My Surroundings, Not Myself: Inconvenience
   4. A Stumble May Prevent A Fall: Safeguards
   5. Nothing Stays In VEGAS: Loophole-spotting
   6. Wait Fifteen Minutes: Distraction
   7. No Finish Line: Reward
   8. Just Because: Treats
   9. Sitting Is The New Smoking: Pairing
5. UNIQUE, JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE
   1. Choose My Bale Of Hay: Clarity
   2. I'm The Fussy One: Identity
   3. Not Everyone Is Like Me: Other People
   4. Everyday Life In UTOPIA: Conclusion
6. Acknowledgments
7. QUIZ: THE FOUR TENDENCIES
8. RESOURCES TO REQUEST
9. START A BETTER THAN BEFORE HABITS GROUP
10. SUGGESTIONS FOR FURTHER READING
11. NOTES

 ABOUT THE CHAPTER: DESIRE, EASE, AND EXCUSES: 作者分述了各個分章的意義：Abstaining, Convenience, and Inconvenience這三章審視了(examine)如何透過調整努力的程度來塑造習慣。Safe-guards, Loophole-Spotting, and Distraction則點出誘惑或是失敗帶來的挑戰. Reward, Treats, and Pairing主要針對利用pleasure去強化我們的好習慣。#By guarding against excuses and justification, and by making our habits as enjoyable as possible, we help ourselves succeed.#

chapter review 4-1: Abstaining ( Free From French Fries )

作者又開始做二分法: Abstainer and Moderator,不過當然一個人會因不同的情況而有不同的表徵。當無法控制自己對某些東西酌量的時候，作者妹妹告訴自己: you're free from xxx然後一次性戒掉或乾脆不碰----作者解釋這同時也是: free from decisions and guilt!

• It was always the same---the temptation, the giving in, the promise of moderation, and then the slide into over-indulgence.
• It's far easier to give up smt altogether than to indulge moderately.
• When it comes to habits, feeling deprived is a pernicious state. (應思考如何在不覺得deprived的狀況下deprived自己)
• Abstainers do better when they follow all-or-nothing habits. (Moderators: having smt makes them want it less.)
• There's no one universal answer. It's a matter of what's better for a particular person. Different solutions for different people.
• Self-knowledge will enable us to use the approach that works for us.
• Giving up smt for a short time reawakens our pleasure in it. (ㄡˇ爾)
• Cravings are more provoked by possibility than by denial.---A desire 會消失的很快如果沒有被fed的話

#Changing a habit may be simple, but it's not easy, and the more tools used, the better(所以作者才講了一堆策略)#

NEW FOR ME:

• BEDEVILED
• PUNCTILIOUS