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《Better Than Before》chapter review 4-5: Loophole-Spotting (NOTHING STAYS IN VEGAS)

書名《Better Than Before》 ---mastering the habits of our everyday lives 

作者 GRETCHEN RUBIN   

chapter review

1. SELF-KNOWLEDGE
   1. The Four Tendencies(The fateful tendencies we bring into the world)
   2. Different Solutions For Different People: Distinctions
2. PILLARS OF HABITS
   1. We Manage What We Monitor: Monitoring
   2. First Things First: Foundation
   3. If It's On The Calendar, It Happens: Scheduling
   4. Someone's Watching: Accountability
3. THE BEST TIME TO BEGIN
   1. It's Enough To Begin: First Steps
   2. Temporary Becomes Permanent: Clean Slate
   3. Data Point Of One: Lightning Bolt
4. DESIRE, EASE, AND EXCUSES
   1. Free From French Fries: Abstaining
   2. It's Hard To Make Things Easier: Convenience
   3. Change My Surroundings, Not Myself: Inconvenience
   4. A Stumble May Prevent A Fall: Safeguards
   5. Nothing Stays In VEGAS: Loophole-spotting
   6. Wait Fifteen Minutes: Distraction
   7. No Finish Line: Reward
   8. Just Because: Treats
   9. Sitting Is The New Smoking: Pairing
5. UNIQUE, JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE
   1. Choose My Bale Of Hay: Clarity
   2. I'm The Fussy One: Identity
   3. Not Everyone Is Like Me: Other People
   4. Everyday Life In UTOPIA: Conclusion
6. Acknowledgments
7. QUIZ: THE FOUR TENDENCIES
8. RESOURCES TO REQUEST
9. START A BETTER THAN BEFORE HABITS GROUP
10. SUGGESTIONS FOR FURTHER READING
11. NOTES

loophole的意思是漏洞、破綻、隙，這章指會動搖我們維持好習慣的，類似誘惑的事物。(會動搖是正常的，就算是維持一個有利、且樂在其中的習慣偶爾還是會動搖,

除了Rebels don't make excuses to justify doing what they want.),作者為了使自己做好對LOOPHOLE的防範，做了十種大的分類:

1. Moral Licensing Loophole:
   1. 這部分是指我們會准許自己做一些不好的事情(e.g. 吃垃圾食物)因為任為自己做了一些好的事情.
2. Tomorrow Loophole:
   1. 就是TOMORROW LOGIC.今天不重要，因為明天的我會突然變得很棒
   2. 別相信今日的極致放縱會讓自己明天變得勤奮或是收斂: Spending an entire day watching TV doesn't make a person feel less like watching TV, or more like working, the next morning.
3. False Choice Loophole 
   1. 通常會自己為是的做二分法，使自己做出選擇，但其實兩件事都是可以完成的.....這樣的概念，和拖延症有強烈相關性
4. Lack of control loophole:
   1. 通常都很在意外在因素，但其實我們遠比我們想像的還擁有更多的掌控權。(長大發現！小時候厲害不是厲害，長大後完全靠自制而很厲害才是真厲害！)  自！制！力！
5. Arranging to Fail Loophole:
   1. we often plan to succumb:  給自己一個亮燦燦的理由，但是明知過程中會觸碰到自己無法抵抗的誘惑(e.g. 一個減肥的人去糖果店附近散步，然後騙自己說要運動、我只看手機15分鐘、躺著想數學比較容易思考...etc)
6. “This Doesn't Count”Loophole:
   1. Everything counts: 我們可以隨時決定要有例外，但是謹記每件事都會互相影響，沒有所謂的『沒關係！』
7. Questionable Assumption Loophole:
   1. 常常會有錯誤的假設: e.g.堅信自己的好習慣已經是牢不可破的
8. Concern for Others Loophole:
   1. 告訴自己是很無私的在配合別人抑或是為了配合當下情況(e.g. 為了融入所謂班級風氣....etc)(我的話常常會太早起床會不會打擾室友睡眠...etc) ----杞人憂天的概念
9. Fake Self-Actualization Loophole:
   1. 偽裝成一種(豁達的)人生觀: e.g. you only live once---YOLO. 、I have to take advantage of this now or miss out forever.
   2. 作者建議提醒自己: 接受自己的同時，要對自己有更高的要求。
   3. For most of us, the real aim isn't to enjoy a few pleasures right now, but to build habits that will make us happy over the long term. Sometimes, that means giving up something in the present, or demanding more from ourselves.
10. “One-Coin” Loophole:
    1. 我的理解是積少成多、聚沙成塔---盡力使自己的狀態一直保持在軌道上，否則一顆老鼠屎隨時壞了一鍋粥
    2. The habit of the habit is more important than the habit itself.所以如果情況不利寫作，折衷還是寫作10分鐘(走一個形式XD)

• A loophole is an argument for why we should be excused from following a good habit. If we recognize them, we can judge them and stop kidding ourselves.
• By catching ourselves in the act of invoking a loophole, we give ourselves an opportunity to reject it, and stick to the habits that we want to foster. 

NEW FOR ME:

• ENTICE
• COUNTERPRODUCTIVE反效果
• SUCCUMB屈服、放棄抵抗